A friend of mine said recently that she wasnâ€™t surprised that adults who were mistreated by their parents tend to mistreat their children. She pointed out that at moments of stress we are all inclined to reach for what we heard or experienced ourselves from our own parents. This is certainly true for me.
There are favourite phrases my mother used with me that I find myself using very regularly, a sample:
Me: How many people are there in this family?
Small voice: 5
Me: Not just one?
Small voice: No, 5
Or â€œAll I want is for everyone to be happyâ€. Or â€œThis place looks like a bomb hit itâ€ Or â€œYou would drive a horse from his oatsâ€. Or â€œYou would try the patience of a saintâ€. Or “Sometimes in life, you can’t have everything you want.”Â Or “Do you think we are made of money?” Or â€œDonâ€™t mind me, Iâ€™ll just sit here in the dark while you enjoy yourselvesâ€
Alright, that last one I made up, but you get the picture.