When I thought about school for the boys initially, I had assumed that I would put them in the same class. Then the school told me that, normally (or normalement as we say in Belgium, how I will miss that expression), they put twins in separate classes. I decided that this was cruel and heartless. I consulted and both twins I knew said that they had been in the same class as their twin siblings and they seem like pleasant, well-adjusted people.
Then, I was talking to the women who work in the creche whom I find very helpful and reliable. They said that Daniel wants to play with Michael all the time. Some days, Michael does not want to play with Daniel (fair enough) and then Daniel gets cranky (who could blame him?). Apparently, there are never times when Michael wants to play with Daniel and Daniel does not want to play with Michael. Their advice would be to separate them at school.
I had noticed that Daniel says that Alice is his friend but when I enquired at the creche, they said that Alice and Michael tend to play together and Daniel waits until they have finished and grabs Michael. My poor little mite.
They are both, of course, great fantasists, like their sister. Whenever they hurt themselves, they both say “It’s not funny.” When I ask them why, they say that Manon laughs when they hurt themselves at the creche. On enquiry, creche staff confirmed that Manon, who seems like a very sweet little girl, is in fact a sweet little girl and very gentle. However, on hearing the context, they explained that some time ago Manon had fallen over and hurt herself and Daniel and Michael had both pointed and laughed at her whereupon they were both severely reprimanded. On the plus side, it does look like they’ve learnt their lesson. On the minus side, I don’t think that they are ever going to forgive Manon for her imaginary offence, she remains a hate figure who mocks the injured, chez nous. I digress.
At home, it is clear that Michael is the ringleader and Daniel dutifully falls into line. We call Michael “dangermouse”. He is the only one of our children who likes risk. Daniel is by far the most obliging of our three children. If we want to quell a fight over a precious object, it is most frequently Daniel who is called upon to give up his claim; because we know he will. I know this isn’t fair but we’re tired.
On closer questioning, both of my grown-up twin advisers (one of whom is, handily enough, the dominant twin and the other the passive), agreed that on balance, it probably would have been better had they been in different classes from their twins at school though, at the time, they certainly didn’t think so.
So, what do you think? Were the twins you know in the same class in school or different classes? From what age? What worked best? I await any comments with bated breath (well, I always await comments with bated breath but in this case particularly bated breath).