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The Month of the Dead: Life is not Ended but Changed

2 November, 2025
Posted in: Cork, Family, Ireland

The priest appeared on the altar today resplendent in gold. “What feast is it?” I wondered to myself. All souls, of course. We prayed for all the dead relatives of whom, at my age, I now have more than enough. And I thought about our gardener when I was a child, Michael Lyons, who didn’t have any family of his own (in retrospect, surely he must have had but he was unmarried and lived in quite spartan conditions in a small cottage with a Jack Russell) and was one of the kindest people I have ever known, very gentle and infinitely patient with young children running in the vegetable garden. As Terry Pratchett once put it succinctly doubtless inspired by others “Do you not know that a man is not dead as long as his name is still spoken?” This is a lovely piece from the Irish Times on that very subject by the theatre director Garry Hynes which I first read when it was published in 2017 and which has really stayed with me.

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  1. Suzy says

    2 November, 2025 at 12:10

    Yes, I think that is so true. Those who have gone before are still here when we remember them and talk about them. I think about my mother every day nearly, less about my father but I do think of him – although he has been dead nearly 55 years now. And I still remember all of my grandparents.

  2. belgianwaffle says

    2 November, 2025 at 17:59

    And, for families, genes can be so strong. I often see my parents in my children and Mr Waffle’s little niece is uncannily like his mother.

  3. Suzy says

    2 November, 2025 at 19:38

    Gosh yes, very true. My younger son is very like my brother..but he gets annoyed so we talk about ‘shared characteristics’

    (My brother watched my young adult son, and even he was surprised..yes, I argue like that..)

  4. belgianwaffle says

    2 November, 2025 at 19:39

    It’s so funny. But generally delightful.

  5. Suzy says

    2 November, 2025 at 21:36

    Exactly ?

  6. Jennifer says

    6 November, 2025 at 01:14

    Gold vestments on All Souls day? Surely black or violet?

  7. belgianwaffle says

    6 November, 2025 at 11:20

    I’m no expert. Didn’t even know there were black vestments.

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