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Hello, Cruel World

5 May, 2013
Posted in: Cork, Family, Ireland

I have not blogged for a while. This is largely because I have moved house and my evenings are taken up with finding places to put everything and wondering why on earth we own so many pictures.

I have taken a break from stashing old CDs in drawers and come to Cork this weekend. This was an unplanned trip. My mother fell and broke her hip on Saturday. This is a bank holiday weekend in Ireland. My father broke his hip on St. Patrick’s weekend which was also a bank holiday weekend. He is recovering well at this stage so, I suppose, it was time for some additional bank holiday drama.

My sister went into the hospital with my mother at 3 pm. She and my brother stayed with her in rotation to midnight. At about 9 pm she got an x-ray and got moved from a seat to a trolley (triumph!). I got the train from Dublin and arrived in A&E about midnight (last train which featured engineering works at Mallow and a bus transfer from there to Cork – what’s not to love?). I spent from midnight to 4 am sitting beside my mother’s trolley in the corridor. About 6 or 7 other people were in the corridor on trolleys. Chances of sleeping were close to zero given the bright lights and people rushing around and chatting away loudly (clearly, all that money spent on health insurance was money well spent – thank you VHI).

There were no call bells in the corridor (obviously) and the staff were running around, so the chance of an older, softly spoken woman getting a glass of water or a trip to the toilet without a mouthy relative to hand were low.

About 1 am an exhausted young doctor with a large spot on one cheek (sympathy) turned up. She said in almost one breath (delivery entirely flat) “I’m the orthopaedic doctor on duty. Is this your mother? Sorry, no one should have to be on a trolley and no one should suffer with a broken hip for more than 24 hours. It will probably be Tuesday or Wednesday before she is operated on.” Then she drifted off into the night. We had had our 2 minutes of bank holiday doctor.

At 3 am the nurse on duty said to me, “It’s quieter now, do you want to go home?” I decided to give it another half hour. At 3.30 am I went to the desk to tell the nurse that I was leaving. “She’s on her break, she’ll be back in half an hour.” I decided to stay until she came back and about 4 am two people came and started moving my mother’s trolley. The excitement, a bed had become available. How does that work? Did someone die? Did someone move? Did someone new come on duty? They were, presumably, not discharging patients in the middle of the night. A mystery. After 13 hours in A&E, a bed on a ward with a call bell and curtains and the possibility of turning off the light seemed really fantastic. I wasn’t even particularly resentful as I gave the nurse the details of Mum’s drug regime for other conditions. This was the third time that evening – we had already given the information twice in A&E. The first time we gave them our printed sheet but they lost that, second time I gave it from the list on my phone. The nurse noted it but the file didn’t seem to have travelled to the ward. How does it work for patients whose families aren’t there? I saw an elderly gentleman who was clearly confused sitting on a trolley, opening and closing his mouth. I wonder how they will sort out his drug regime?

I was disappointed but not entirely surprised when the hospital called in the morning to ask us to bring in Mum’s medicines as their pharmacy wouldn’t open until Tuesday. My brother and I spent most of today in the hospital trying (largely unsuccessfully) to persuade my mother to eat the rather unappetising hospital food and supplements we brought in ourselves (to be fair, equally unpopular). She was to fast from midnight with a view to having her operation tomorrow – but I recalled the words of the tired doctor and didn’t believe that they really would operate on Monday. That didn’t make me or the patient any less disappointed when, at 10 this evening, we were told that the operation wouldn’t be tomorrow.

I have to go back to Dublin tomorrow afternoon and my sister is in Spain for work for the week so I think my brother is going to have a tough week.

How Does the Human Race Survive?

15 April, 2013
Posted in: Twins, Youngest Child

Michael: Ow, ow, ow.
Me: What happened?
Michael: I put my eye on to the bulb at the centre of the Death Star to look at it closely and burnt my eyelid. Ow, ow, ow.

No, Just No

14 April, 2013
Posted in: Middle Child, Twins

Daniel: Oysters are mammals.
Me: No, they’re not.
Daniel: Are you sure?
Me: Yes.
Daniel: How do you know they’re not mammals?
Me: Well, they have none of the characteristics of mammals at all, they don’t give birth to live young…
Daniel: How do oysters have baby oysters?
Me: I don’t know really.

Pregnant pause. Please forgive the pun.

Harry Potter and the Jacobites

13 April, 2013
Posted in: Mr. Waffle

Mr. Waffle brought this to my attention as it combines two of our children’s favourite things:

Still Drawing

12 April, 2013
Posted in: Dublin, Ireland

The problem with moving around the corner from where you lived before is that you don’t necessarily feel the need to move everything all at once.

A week after moving we are still going down to the old house to pick up stuff. The attic and the sheds haven’t been touched. This reminds me of when we moved into the old house and Mr. Waffle kept bringing stuff from storage and I couldn’t believe that there was more. “Still drawing?” asked my father. “Eh?” “From the well of possessions.”

There is more. Even though the new house is twice the size of the old house there still doesn’t seem to be enough room. Alas. I see another IKEA Billy in our future.

A Decade

11 April, 2013
Posted in: Princess

Tonight I kissed a nine year old girl goodnight and tomorrow I will have a ten year old sit at breakfast with me. Yes, indeed, herself will be 10 tomorrow.

She has been reading “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” Amy Chua [who knows why?] and reporting to me on my parenting failures. Has she performed in Carnegie Hall? I fear not. But if reading were a competition she would star. On Sunday she had a prayer of the faithful to read out in front of the congregation: “For those who think that that the Christian faith is incompatible with compassion and kindness”. I thought that incompatible might give her pause but not a bit of it.

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She is very happy in school. Her teacher this year doesn’t seem to be as good as those she has had in previous years (alas) but the Princess is doing well (except for her continuing atrocious handwriting). She is in fact breezing through school and she is lucky because she happens to enjoy the things that are valued in schools. I do worry that when she is actually required to do work to keep up – which is coming – she may be in for a salutary shock.

The school has a considerable social mix and her classmates’ parents come from all walks of life which is one of the things that really appeals to me about the school. It’s also small and most of the children know each other and all of the staff know each and every child in the school. Herself has become pally with some of the older children and looks out for some of the younger ones.

She likes to climb mountains and she likes to swim but physical activities outside of these two are anathema to her. She is utterly brilliant at inventing games for her brothers to play and stories to tell them. They regard their parents’ efforts as paltry by comparison. Unfortunately, she is capricious and sometimes her favours are withdrawn. Oh woe.

She loves to eat meat which is great but I wish she would expand her vegetable repertoire beyond raw carrot. She has a sweet tooth. She is brilliant at arguing the toss and she never lets go. She did not get this from her mother. She is obliging and kind and has a reasonably developed sense of duty. She is lovely and loveable and she has made me a better person (though definitely also a tireder one).

I just looked at last year’s birthday post and I said most of the same things. I suppose she hasn’t changed so much or maybe I’m not paying proper attention. I do have a slight feeling that it is all going a bit faster than it was and I want it to slow down a bit. I want to know her better as she is now and I feel that I never have enough time (though I have just this instant refused to go upstairs and chat and chased her back to bed so I am not entirely consistent in this). I think the biggest difference between us and our children is how quickly time goes for us and how glacially slowly for them.

As attentive readers will know, we moved house last Friday and, although the new house is great, she misses the old house. One evening she said, “I want to go home.” I know what she means. It feels a bit like we are in a holiday house or adrift from our moorings. We spent nearly 5 years in the old house which is half her life to date. It feels like the end of an era. But, I suppose, the start of a new one.

Happy birthday, my beautiful girl.

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